Myths and Facts About Adoption
Myth: Adoption is costly and it takes a very long time to adopt through a Children's Aid Society.
Reality: Adopting through a Children's Aid Society is free. It generally takes approximately one year to go through the adoption process. This time period is necessary to find the right match for a child. When we meet with potential families, we are looking for a cultural match, but we also look at the personalities, interests and the needs of a child not just in the short-term, but for their whole life. The matching process is integral to people really understanding what child would fit with them the best.
Myth: Adoption is temporary. Children can be returned to their biological parents at anytime.
Reality: Adoption is a legal process where the adoptive parent becomes the permanent parent. Although CAS's encourage openness, depending on what’s best for the child and the comfort level of the family, most of the time "openness" means occasionally exchanging letters on important anniversaries. At no time do birth parents have the right to take their children back. Instead adoptive families get support to help their new children make the transition and become comfortable in their new home.
One day, every child in Ontario will have a family
Thank you to the National Adoption Day Coalition for developing this video. For more information visit www.nationaladoptionday.org
Adoption Month Success Story: "Never Say Never"
Daisy, nearly 8, is a vibrant, happy and curious girl with the biggest smile imaginable. Now in grade 2, she is an enthusiastic learner who can read, write and take part in all class activities. Her proud mom, Nancy adopted Daisy as a 5 1/2 year old after seeing her profile on the AdoptOntario website. Daisy has come a long way from the little girl that first caught her mom’s attention.
A commonly held belief about adoption is that people only want children who are considered to be “normal” or without special needs. Along the same lines, those children who have exceptional needs are often characterized as “unadoptable” because they are thought to be too difficult for any family to manage. Daisy and Nancy prove both notions wrong.
Without a doubt, Daisy’s journey to adoption was a long one. Made a Crown Ward as a young toddler, she remained in foster care for the next four years. From early infancy, Daisy displayed multiple developmental and social delays such that she was even diagnosed with Autism at the age of 2. Eventually Daisy was moved to a second foster home where she started to make gains and show signs of her true potential. She was even re-evaluated and thought to not have Autism after all. Through all this time, the search for an adoptive home never ceased. During the four years of working on Daisy’s case, the Wendy’s Wonderful Kids recruiter met with and assessed countless families who expressed interest in this delightful little girl. In the end, none was a suitable match for Daisy.
Through this long and sometimes discouraging period of time, it was natural to wonder how long the adoption search would continue. Fortunately for Daisy, her workers kept plugging away. Even more fortunate is that the person who finally stepped forward to be her parent was completely open to adopting a child with “special needs”. With her extensive professional background working with exceptional children in the school system, Nancy felt that she and Daisy were perfectly matched.
Daisy is thriving and living her life to the fullest with her loving mother, grandparents and other extended family. She also has contact with a younger biological brother. Daisy’s case reminds us all that we should never give up hope of finding a permanent family for any child in foster or group care. The families are out there - we just have to keep looking.
As a side note: Of the many families that initially expressed interest in Daisy, four of them went on to adopt other children through our Agency. This one small girl helped 7 other children get adopted, including a sibling group of 4!